Negativity in the fetish community: why it’s inevitable and I choose to ignore it

I’ve seen a few posts over the past weeks expressing concern at the growing negativity inside the fetish community and particularly within FetLife. It does seem there’s a groundswell of people disapproving of kinks because they don’t share them, or being willing to express less “liberal” views.

Some have pointed to the fact fetishism has become more popular, fuelled by celebrities such as Kim Kardashian and phenomena like “50 Shades”. A greater awareness has meant more people becoming willing to both experiment and criticise.

I think the issue is much simpler. The fetish community is a subset of a wider society caught in a whirlwind of negativity.

There’s a lot of change going on in the world. The “Right” is becoming more vocal, nationalism is splitting families and the “Old World Order” is under threat. We’re reacting to it as individuals in our unique ways and it is only natural that this reaction will be carried with us into the fetish universe.

Social networks like Fetlife and Kinky Twitter aren’t isolated places where kinksters can be their warm, friendly and inclusive selves. They’re just places where ordinary people bring their regular hopes, fears and beliefs and act them out. As such they’ve always been a mirror that reflects society’s wider ills.

I for one appreciate the benefits of the various fetish communities. Through them I have expanded my knowledge of fetishism and engaged in fun and lively debates. I enjoy the comments and messages I receive about my photography and musings, even if they’re critical or challenging.

I look forward to remaining a part of it and seeing it grow further once this period of unsettling change has passed.

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About Razz

I'm a creative dominant type with a love of BDSM and fetishism. This blog is an outlet, so don't take anything you see or read too seriously.

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