This Is Razz
BDSM erotica, photography, lifestyle

The “deactivate my account?” ploy for extra validation

I trawl Fetlife’s latest writing from time to time, as is my wont. I find interesting writing and erotica, sometimes tales that touch the heart. Some I “love”, others I comment on, more than a few I roll my eyes at and move on.

A trend of recent weeks has been the “I’m thinking of deactivating my account” variety. The nature of these posts follow a similar structure:

  • A reason why I used to like Fetlife (anything from a sentence to a few paragraphs)
  • A reason why I don’t like Fetlife any long (see above)
  • A comment about the “friends” I have (and how I’ll miss them)
  • A device (rhetorical question, open question etc) that indicates I am going to deactivate my account designed to garner a response.

The inevitable then occurs with “friends” proclaiming how the poster will be missed, how wonderful they are etc, etc, etc. Or silence. In either event, a bit of bookmarking and a revisit a day or three later revealed said poster was still present on the site.

As an experiment I commented on a few of these posts with a fairly blunt “Deactivate your account and if you want to come back, come back. If not, don’t” type message. One got deleted, another blocked me and a third threw a couple of vague insults at me (and deleted the comeback comment I directed at them). My assumption is hearing anything other than a reinforcement of the “No, you should stay” message is not what was wanted.

I know we fetish folk can be a little fragile at times. I know we can feel a tad vulnerable and lonely with our kinks and perversions and need a little validation. Hiding behind a veiled threat to “walk away” from the scene is a bit rubbish though. Almost like a reverse trolling.

So if you need a hug or validation or just that feeling that you’re not alone be honest about it. There’s nothing wrong with saying that’s how you feel.

About Razz

I'm a creative dominant type with a love of BDSM and fetishism. This blog is an outlet, so don't take anything you see or read too seriously.

Follow me on social media...
Training her white slave

What would you do if you worshipped a woman so completely she told you to end your marriage?

Training her White Slave is a tale of BDSM that focuses heavily on race play, sadism and humiliation. It's not for the faint hearted or easily offended.

Available now on Amazon Kindle

© 2018 Razz.
All rights reserved
I use cookies to help run this site. Accept Cookies