How to teach your submissive face fucking

How to teach your submissive face fucking

You’ve seen it on countless clips and videos: a dominant forces their penis or strap-on so deep into the submissive’s mouth that they start to choke. Then they come out, pause and thrust back in again and again until the poor victim is gasping for breath.

Whether you call it face fucking or throat fucking, the effect is the same. The dominant feels powerful; the submissive feels used.

Although fantasies and erotica may be full of the imagery of face fucking it is difficult to pull it off. Submissives who are unprepared may find themselves in genuine difficulty, with Dominants having to cope with vomiting, choking and even unexpected wounds.

Control the gag reflex

The key to being able to receive this treatment, in my experience at least, is a degree of control over the gag reflex. As the penis (or dildo) moves down the throat it reaches a point where the body snaps into defence mode and starts to convulse and vomit, often accompanied by panic or fear. This is the body trying to expel something it sees as a threat and while it may be part of the thrill, it also brings the risk of genuine choking or even “biting down”.

Preparing a submissive is primarily about getting them used to having something pressed down into their throat. Aside from being entire practical this preparation can also be a lot of fun and used by the Dominant as part of the process of building their authority.

You won’t deep throat first time you try

Start with a soft silicone dildo that is quite flexible (such as a jelly dildo). It can be tempting to buy something enormous to mimic the porn stars, but in reality a smaller one, perhaps no more than five or five and a half inches, is ideal to start with. Softness is required to help it move freely through the throat, while a smaller length builds confidence. Larger and stiffer dildos can be used later.

The first objective is to be able to deep throat the dildo. This means being able to insert the entire length into the mouth without choking. To do this I have found the best way to prepare is to insert the dildo until the gag reflex just starts to kick in (the submissive will start to feel like they are choking) and hold it in place for a second or two so that the body can become used to it, then withdraw. When I train a submissive at a distance I will often set a daily task of doing this five times, each time pushing the dildo a little further so that over the course of no more than a week they can take the entire length.

Initially some people find it better to lean the head back so that they straighten the windpipe and make it easier to insert it. The point of using a soft dildo, however, is to allow the submissive to become used to something in their throat when their head is at a normal angle. Afterall, face fucking is usually done with the submissive on their knees and their head held against the crotch.

The second target is to be able to gently slide the dildo in and out of the throat without throwing up. Having established deep throat, the submissive is then encouraged to gently insert and remove the dildo just as they would if they were being fucked. Gently is key here. The objective is for them to understand how their body responds and get used to the sensations, not give them a sore throat or make them vomit. Again, depending on the submissive, I may set this as a week long task to build them up so that by the end of the week they can take a thrust a second (as in, “in – and – out – and – in – and – out”!)

You’ll need a bigger dildo

With these two targets met the submissive can move onto larger or more realistic dildos and the process repeated. Always I ensure the submissive can deep throat the toy before moving them to the next target.

Of course all of this is building up to the point where it is no longer a solo dildo that’s in their throat, but something attached to the Dominant! The act of being trained can and does enhance the anticipation of what is to come, adding to the intensity of the session. Even so, care needs to be exercised the first time as a submissive inserting a dildo into their own throat and someone else doing it for them are two different things.

Safety first

Always when I face fuck a submissive for the first time I take it slowly to start with and build quickly. I test their physical reaction to ensure we’re both safe (remember the bite down!) before moving on to something more intense. Even then it is still possible the submissive will vomit, choke or panic.

Safewords do not work when a penis is pressed into a submissive’s mouth, so at the very least keep a careful eye for signs of genuine distress and certainly consider using a safe gesture (such as clapping). Holding the submissive’s head in place and keeping them against you can enhance the feeling of power, as well as the depth of penetration, but you have to remember panic and fear also comes with the gag reflex. If your submissive is struggling to get free it might be genuine, so erring on the side of caution and releasing them, at least long enough for them to recover, may be a good idea. Of course, with time and experience, the submissive can be held in place for longer and this can add considerably to their feeling of being dominated.

Have fun

Face fucking is intensely enjoyable for me and it has a special kind of thrill when a submissive is trying to get free, or coughing and gasping for breath. It’s a truly powerful experience and one that I know those I have done it with have enjoyed as submissives. Yet getting to this point takes time, patience and a degree of commitment from both of us. Not only does this lead to safer sessions, I also think that process of training brings us closer together and makes the act more enjoyable for us both.

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