Does BDSM race play empower racists?

Does BDSM race play empower racists?

Long story short, I was googling “race play”. I wanted to see if there were any new players or BDSM resources around this contentious topic. Given the recent angst in the US around racial dynamics, I wondered if there were new opinions or stories I’d missed in my cozy UK bubble.

Whether it was the way I typed in my search terms or something I set, I don’t know. Whatever it was, I uncovered the darker side of the fetish, the side where it isn’t a game but a deeply held belief that a black person is inferior to white.

A thread of black bondage

At first the forum was a small collection of porn where black girls were being rough fucked or gangbanged. Then came black women in bondage or mild BDSM scenes. The comments were what you’d expect, a mix of genders piling in with a few racial slurs and a stated intent of doing something to said model.

Then there was the thread with seemingly private photos. They featured mostly black women holding up signs proclaiming they were available for “white cock only” or some such. Other people had racial slurs written on their bodies. Sometimes they looked as though they were taking part in a prank. Other times there was deep-seated shame. Beneath them streamed the comments that varied from alleged black people saying this was how they felt, to whites ranting their political conspiracies and “white genocide”.

I’ve had black women submit to me, and I’ve used racial slurs and implied racism within our scenes. There were photos and selfies of these women holding signs or being painted with words essential to our play and which have long since deleted. We enjoyed our time together and when the scene ended and we’d come down from the high of it all, we returned to normality. The things we said and did in private were not things we’d tolerate of non-consenting people in public.

Our consensual race play games

Pulled in by a shocked curiosity, I reflected on my experiences. There was a part of me that relived the thrill of those scenes, another part terrified I’d see my handwriting on someone’s chest in the thread. If I did, what would I do? Demand it be removed and risk it being spread wider in spite? Contact a former playmate and alert her to it?

Devoid of their overtly racist context I might have found the images intriguing or arousing. Placed into it they took on a new and sinister perspective. These were no longer people enjoying a part of their sexuality, taboo though it might be. Their likeness had been inserted into deeply held racist views. It wasn’t a celebration; it was victimisation.

Those of us who enjoy race play risk appealing to the racists. We risk validating their beliefs because they’ll see our consensual games and layer on their own ideology. They won’t understand the underlying complexities of BDSM, nor our motivations. They’ll just the scene and assume inside every black woman is a “white man’s whore” waiting to come out.

A taboo outside BDSM

Perhaps this is why race play remains uncomfortably on the edges of the BDSM scene. Afraid of legitimising racism and bringing more unwelcome attention down on the “community”, it’s pushed away. It’s taboo. Unspoken of. Barred as a topic of discussion on FetLife and others.

If we can’t enjoy our sexuality out of fear, surely the racists have already won?

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