Having a week off
Lockdown has finally won. A lack of motivation, stiffled creativity and general boredom has had the better of me. Time for a break.
We need to talk about consent in BDSM
Since BDSM went mainstream the importance of safe, sane and consensual has been lost. We need to reopen the conversation about consent.
The Heavy Rubber Widower is now on Smashwords
The most heartfelt of my short stories has finally made its way onto Smashwords and into their premium catalogue. That means you can also find it on Apple, in Barnes & Noble and a few other places.
Is this just exploiting Coronavirus for profit?
Using the coronavirus to advertise your fetish site is poor taste at best.
Maybe it’s time to reinvent myself
With big changes coming up in our lives, Tinky and I have decided to leave the UK for her native Japan. Could a move to Tokyo prompt a reinvention?
No one reads your Fetlife Profile
Doesn't matter what you write in your profile. No one reads it. Might as well just get on and enjoy social networking anyway.
My sex education was fucked up – and no one said a thing
My sex education in the 1980s was woefully inadequate. Now it seems little has changed, and maybe even gone backwards.
Copyright, photographs and posting on social media
Just because you're in a photo doesn't mean you have a right to share it on Social Media. If you're commissioning a shoot get a proper contract.
Death to the UK’s porn block (for now)
There’s good news from the UK Government: plans to introduce a nationwide “porn block” have been shelved. If they’d gone ahead every porn site serving content into the UK would have had to challenge the visitor to prove they were over 18. Not with a timid pop-up, but with proper verification.
The whole thing was getting silly. Asking people to provide their credit card details just to look at content wasn’t going to help build trust. Other ideas, such as using your passport or buying a verification card from a newsagent, didn’t fly either. When stories emerged that PornHub’s owner was trying to build a national database of porn users privacy came rushing to the front.
For now the plans have been scrapped. Needless to say privacy advocates are happy and the “what about the children?” brigade less so. There’s the usual talk of children being put at risk from harmful content and little about the conversations parents should be having with their children but won’t.
I’ve little doubt the plans will resurface in another form. For now at least we Brits can all enjoy our adult content without filter.
Is the “Nazi Fetish” a legitimate part of BDSM, or extremism finding a home?
Nazi symbolism can be seen at BDSM events and on websites. Is the kink community right to be offended, or is it a legitimate fetish?
Training the White Boy – back on Kindle
A follow-up to “Training” is being worked on, and should pop out after I’ve finished my next Heavy Rubber title.
Why did I decide to return to the genre? I was clearing out my email and stumbled across the emails I got from a couple of people who were into this thanking me for writing it. Both were struggling a little with it and enjoyed reading something romantic and liberating rather than downright abusive.
I know my work won’t be winning any Nobel prizes anytime soon. If there are people who enjoy it and welcome it, fair enough.
Just remember: race play is a consensual dynamic in BDSM. Racism is thinking less of someone because of their heritage. Don’t confuse the two.
Let’s just call it what it is – a sexual assault
Bad scenes at Tokyo’s massive Cosplay event. A Chinese cosplayer was assaulted by a mob of camera carrying arseholes determined to get up-skirt photos.
There’s a lot of mob mentality floating around in here, and the further out the more I’m inclined to be generous and think people are curious about the mob. But right in there, with your camera pointing at a crying girl in distress, snapping away trying to get shots up her skirt?
I know there probably won’t be any criminal charges brought (this is Japan, afterall), but I hope they’re outed on Twitter and shamed into apologies.
And for the rest of us? Let’s learn something from this.