Forward planning helps
Congratulations. You’ve managed to convince a girl to let you tie her up. Here she is all bound up in bondage. Now what?
Sometimes I read stuff and think “why”?
Usually it’s the “I’m leaving here because dick’s not dipped” or “Person x did thing Y I don’t agree with”. Or my personal fave: the “Let’s copy / paste the dating plea I put out last time and see if anyone bites” post. Mix it up, people. Do something different. Write in the third person. […]
Farewell to Tumblr. Porn won’t miss you
Like many, I’ve been lamenting the passing of Tumblr. Their decision to ban adult content has struck a hard limit and like many I’ve taken stock and removed myself for pastures new. Last night I saw the red flags. As I reviewed my past postings I saw endless flags for inappropriate content. Post after post […]
The end of my photography career
I set up a bondage shoot and the model and I spoke on the phone. She said she’d put on a bit of weight and added a dress size since she did her profile. “So you’re a size 12?” I asked, reading from her profile she was a 10. “Yes,” she replied. Not a problem. […]
I found out the age of consent in Japan is 13
It was a bit shocking to discover the age of consent in Japan is 13 to say the least. This is the youngest legal age a person (child) can legally have sex in the developed world. It threw up all kinds of images of older people exploiting incredibly young children, of sex tourism, of girls […]
Farewell to Google+
There’s lots of jokes floating around about this one, but I’m genuinely sad about it. My fetish profile isn’t used that much, but on the vanilla side it’s quite the different story. I’m in there daily participating in groups, sharing and commenting. I’m in discussions that have raged for weeks. Dammit, I’ve got friends there. […]
Lessons from a Minister and the 16 year old Financial Dominatrix
I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again – be careful who you play with. Simon Danczuk, a prominent UK MP and someone who campaigned to out the issues of child exploitation, was “outed” as having a sexting exchange with a 17 year old woman. Here in the UK that isn’t a problem per se (16 […]
Japan, swimsuits and being uncomfortable
I admit it – I have a thing for swimsuits. I love one piece swimsuits and how they look on a woman’s body. Like many in a similar place I find I’m naturally drawn towards the Japanese Gravure and AV models. But there was something that popped up a few months ago that got me […]
CollarSpace: end of an era or just the loss of a website?
My relationship with CollarSpace has been a bit of a love / hate one. I am deeply indebted to the site (or at least its predecessor CollarMe) because it’s where I met Tinky, with whom I fully intend on spending the rest of my life. At the same time, it was so full of fakes, […]
Cockygate (or how to piss off the Internet when you write romance)
So a Romance novelist went all Entrepreneur Magazine and copyrighted the word “Cocky”. Then she goes and sends out a bunch of “cease and desist” letters to authors who used the word in their titles. Bad move. Aside from the full-on roasting she’s getting on t’internet, there’s also the legal ramifications that are likely to […]
The “deactivate my account?” ploy for extra validation
I trawl Fetlife’s latest writing from time to time, as is my wont. I find interesting writing and erotica, sometimes tales that touch the heart. Some I “love”, others I comment on, more than a few I roll my eyes at and move on. A trend of recent weeks has been the “I’m thinking of […]
The joy of slapping a slave across the face
Slapping a slave’s face is incredibly rewarding and something I love doing. I love the surprised look on a submissive’s face as my hand swings round. The red handprint on their face makes it all the more enjoyable. Face slapping is not only painful it can also be deeply humiliating, with the marks visible to […]