Curse of the unsolicited BDSM dating message
Unsolicited messages setting out what the sender would like to do to you are a part of the BDSM dating scene. Replying is pointless. Blocking is better.
Exposing my vulnerable side to the woman I love
Sack time is a way I can release stress. Tinky plays the role of service top - and for an hour or so I put complete trust in her in a way only a man could.
Damn, I miss Zentai
Zentai is a fetish where a person covers themselves entirely in spandex. It's a liberating fetish, and easier than total latex enclosure or heavy rubber.
Woman in a window: musing on the isolation of lockdown
During the lockdown a woman in a flat opposite took to pressing her breasts against her window. Maybe she was craving the subtle interactions lockdown stole
My kink is a form of armour
Sometimes we use our fetishes as a way of protecting ourselves from the outside world. Just remember to lift your visor from time to time.
The “Real Dominant” doesn’t exist. Stop trying to find them.
Looking for a "real dominant" is a fool's errand. Stop worrying about what a dominant looks like and start focusing on what submission means to you.
Cancer, kink and trying to find “normal”
Tinky had cancer and it had a profound effect on our kinky relationship. We're finding a way back to BDSM because we both want to be whole again.
Online domination: a convenient, thrilling form of BDSM
You don't have to visit a Dominatrix in person to enjoy submission. Many Masters and Mistresses offer online domination for the virtual submissive.
Banned on Amazon: Daddy’s Little Bunny
Amazon wouldn’t let me publish this on KDP. They never told me why. Still, their loss, Smashword’s gain(!)
Riding the bus in her schoolgirl uniform, Bunny draws a lot of attention. Unsurprising as she’s beautiful, black and a little too old for the short skirt and jumper.
When she turns up at her older lover’s home an evening of intimate pleasure starts that will change her life forever. As she’s told off, spanked and dominated she gives herself completely to the man she calls “Daddy”.
Lil’ Bunny is a 10,000 word love story that features interracial age play, spanking and domination. It is not for the easily offended.
How to teach your submissive face fucking
If you want your submissive to swallow ALL of your cock don't expect them to take it first time. Teaching them to bypass their gag reflex can be fun though.
Writing the perfect social media fetish profile
Writing a fetish profile is a labour of love for some, a terrifying ordeal for others. On Fetlife you can write entire novels, on Twitter you have less than 150 characters.
So how do you get those words onto the page.
First, be natural. Write what you feel rather than trying to conform to some preordained “winning format”.
Don’t think you have to write something and that’s it. You can rewrite it as often as you want.
Finally, don’t forget few people read profiles. You’re better off investing time in networking, sharing blog posts and being a participant in a community than fretting over a few words on a page.
Fakes and flakes and swipe right profiles
The pressure to stand out in an age of "swipe right" has led many to use old, heavily photoshopped or even fake profile photos.