Finding the courage to appear on webcam
It was many years ago. My then Fuckbuddy-cum-Mistress went on holiday to Africa. She got bored and decided a webcam session would be a laugh. I agreed. Why wouldn’t I? So out comes my gimp costume and at the allotted time I’m wrapped up in latex performing her instructions. Most are pretty humiliating. Most involve […]
A voice from the past needs help
Someone I once knew wanted to meet up again for "old times sake". My response was as much about needing to care for my own wellbeing as concerns about hers
Updating the website (again)
The site design has been refreshed again. Find out what I've done, why and how I'm keeping an eye on the UK "porn ban".
A slave with no limits?
“I’ve got no limits.” How often have you read that in an eMail on a profile or in a forum? It seems as if some wield this statement as a badge of honour, proclaiming it as if a potential Mistress or Master will swoon when they hear those words. Let’s review that statement though. What […]
My photography in 2019
I want to change the way I photograph. Sure, I’ll work with models. Maybe more than I did in ’18. Only I want to spend less time in the studio, more time working with “real” people. I want to document. I want to capture couples enjoying their fetish. Mistresses rewarding their slaves. Masters binding their […]
I use a sex doll
No, really. I have an inflatable sex doll. Now, before I get accused of over sharing, let me explain WHY I have an inflatable sex doll… I practice bondage on it. Before I walk into a studio I will practice on the sex doll to make sure my ties are right, I know which bit […]
Safe words are not always practical
If your partner is unable to say a safe word you need to find a different way to signal. Here’s a few ideas… click their fingers knock their knees together hold a sponge ball and drop it when it gets too much three short grunts, three long ones. As long as it isn’t something they’d […]
New gear for a new submissive
Your huge collection of BDSM gear might not be as attractive to a new partner as you thought. A new collection might be needed for a new relationship.
Mucking about a long time ago
From a long time ago, when I was pratting about with zentai and Photoshop Elements.
29 tips for dominants in the BDSM dating scene
There can be a perception that Dominants find submissives quite easily. This, in my view, has largely been created by the abundance of professional Dominatrices whose dungeons are awash with paying men (and women). For those who are more interested in finding play partners or even life partners the search can be a little harder. […]
The joy of cock and ball torture
They sit outside our bodies. They are fragile. They are extremely sensitive and can grow or shrink depending on the weather. They are the male genitals. On the very rare occasions that I’ve dominated men I’ve enjoy playing on the vulnerability of these important organs. Just the threat of doing something horrible to them can […]
Why safe words are an important part of BDSM
Your partner is bent over your knee, their bottom bare and red from where you’ve been spanking them. As you strike them once more you hear these words, “Please stop, please no more.” What do you do? Our society dictates that you stop. Yet in a BDSM scene begging for something to stop can heighten […]