Lifestyle

A few days ago I posted about people being dicks on Google+. Here’s the follow up to the thread. I guess some people never learn…

Commentary, June 19th, 2017

If you're serious about finding a submissive partner on Google+ throwing random comments about being a master at posts will not work

Lifestyle, June 7th, 2017

BDSM dating isn't like it is in vanilla world. It comes charged with sexuality, risks exposure and can leave you hung out to dry. So take care

Lifestyle, June 2nd, 2017

It’s a pure hobby for me. Something creative to take my mind off the hassles of a stressful working life. By not asking for money it means I’m free to shoot what I want, when I want and for my own enjoyment. I don’t have to meet a publication schedule, nor worry about whether I’m […]

Lifestyle, May 10th, 2017

Dear Neighbours, There is nothing to be afraid of. I am just a rubberist. It means I get sexually excited by wearing latex and being with people who wear it too. It does not mean I am going to attack your children. Or ritually slaughter your cat. Nor rape you whilst you sleep in your […]

Lifestyle, March 4th, 2017

I’ll spend weeks building up to it. I keep telling myself “I’m going to wear the catsuit, I’m going to wear the catsuit.” The night comes. I eat dinner. I look in the mirror. OK, I’m wearing the jeans and loose shirt…

Lifestyle, February 18th, 2017

Dominants are strong, powerful people. We’re in control all of the time. We’ve a sharp mind and an inherent ability to read and understand the needs of our submissives. At least that’s the common view. The reality is that we’re as fragile as the rest of humanity. Of course we’re self-assured and confident to the […]

Lifestyle, February 18th, 2017

There’s a long standing joke about using a gas mask when you have a cold in order to protect everyone else. I figured I’d give it a try. It didn’t go well. First up: sneezing. Not a good experience, especially if (like me) your colds tend to involve streaming runny noses and gooey, sticky mucus. […]

Lifestyle, January 19th, 2017

Sharing your life with someone vanilla can be frustrating. Whether they’re a partner, a flat mate or a lodger, there is a certain fear associated with being discovered that can make it difficult to satisfy a fetish. Leaving latex clothing out to dry leaves strong odours, self-bondage sessions risk discovery and self-flagellation is not as […]

Lifestyle, January 10th, 2017

The past few months have been hard for me. The UK’s decision to leave the EU has had a profound and quite damaging impact on my business, which I’ve been struggling to cope with. I got locked into a downward spiral that no amount of hard work could pull me out of. One of the […]

Lifestyle, December 18th, 2016

I was reflecting on a conversation with a potential girlfriend a couple or more years ago. Having initially said she loved my photography and thought I was very talented and poured much praise on me I was told that a condition of our “being together” would be that I would have to stop. Excuse me? My […]

Lifestyle, December 4th, 2016

“Do you need to impress slaves?” It was a question posed in one of the forums that I follow. A Dominatrix was commenting on how she was finding it difficult to find quality slaves, and how her image was putting people off. Her theory was that as a Mistress it was the responsibility of submissives […]

Lifestyle, November 8th, 2016

How often have you seen that cry on your timeline? A Mistress complains that another has started following their followers, perhaps contacting them directly, maybe even convincing one or two to change allegiance. Sometimes the cries can become so loud that the most dedicated of followers can gang up on the newcomer, threaten them or […]

Lifestyle, September 30th, 2016

You open your inbox and what’s the first thing you see? A message from someone you don’t know of their genitals. You sigh. You hit delete. You rant on Twitter. The “dick pic” (and it’s female equivalent) has gotten a bad press in the past few years thanks to its apparent prevalence as an introductory […]

Lifestyle, September 26th, 2016

In a previous post on working with the press I suggested having a set of high quality images ready to share with a journalist would make their life easier. Just as blogs and publications are endlessly hunting for stories, so they are also looking for the images to go with them. An interview subject who […]

Lifestyle, September 14th, 2016

Marks are an inevitable part of bondage photography. The rope compresses the skin and leaves a criss-cross of patterns that trace where the bonds once secures the model. To many of us these marks have their own appeal and with our partners and bunnies we may aim to leave a mark for a few hours, […]

Lifestyle, September 8th, 2016

Rape is an abhorrent crime, and those who commit it deserve the full wrath of our judicial system. It leaves victims traumatised for decades and can have a destructive impact not only on their life, but also the lives of those around them. Quite simply it should not happen. However. In BDSM there is the […]

Lifestyle, August 29th, 2016