Cancer, kink and trying to find “normal”
Tinky had cancer and it had a profound effect on our kinky relationship. We're finding a way back to BDSM because we both want to be whole again.
Online domination: a convenient, thrilling form of BDSM
You don't have to visit a Dominatrix in person to enjoy submission. Many Masters and Mistresses offer online domination for the virtual submissive.
Banned on Amazon: Daddy’s Little Bunny
Amazon wouldn’t let me publish this on KDP. They never told me why. Still, their loss, Smashword’s gain(!)
Riding the bus in her schoolgirl uniform, Bunny draws a lot of attention. Unsurprising as she’s beautiful, black and a little too old for the short skirt and jumper.
When she turns up at her older lover’s home an evening of intimate pleasure starts that will change her life forever. As she’s told off, spanked and dominated she gives herself completely to the man she calls “Daddy”.
Lil’ Bunny is a 10,000 word love story that features interracial age play, spanking and domination. It is not for the easily offended.
How to teach your submissive face fucking
If you want your submissive to swallow ALL of your cock don't expect them to take it first time. Teaching them to bypass their gag reflex can be fun though.
Writing the perfect social media fetish profile
Writing a fetish profile is a labour of love for some, a terrifying ordeal for others. On Fetlife you can write entire novels, on Twitter you have less than 150 characters.
So how do you get those words onto the page.
First, be natural. Write what you feel rather than trying to conform to some preordained “winning format”.
Don’t think you have to write something and that’s it. You can rewrite it as often as you want.
Finally, don’t forget few people read profiles. You’re better off investing time in networking, sharing blog posts and being a participant in a community than fretting over a few words on a page.
Fakes and flakes and swipe right profiles
The pressure to stand out in an age of "swipe right" has led many to use old, heavily photoshopped or even fake profile photos.
You don’t need to find a “mistress” to indulge your fetishes
Having a fetish doesn't mean you have to be alone. Nor does hiring a sex worker mean you have to go with a professional dominatrix.
I considered doing a male photoshoot.
Posts tentative casting call.
Opens first half dozen emails.
Deletes casting calls.
Goes and has shower in bleach.
Don’t let someone else’s writing upset your kinky Mental Health
Wrapping yourself up in knots over the latest writing about your fetish isn't good for your mental health. Relax. Unwind. Enjoy it for what it is.
Every fetishist should do a few selfies
Selfies can be awesome. They remind you of fond memories, happy times, people you enjoyed being with. How you enjoyed your fetishes.
I’ve done a few. I’ve loaded up my camera on a tripod, set the timer and run like hell to adopt “the perfect pose”. It’s a mix of freaking awesome and intense frustration. The results can be amazing or rubbish.
It doesn’t matter.
All that matters is for a few minutes you can capture those moments when you were happy in your fetish.
Does BDSM race play empower racists?
An encounter with a white supremacist forum on BDSM race play awakened an uncomfortable question. Our games may be consensual, but do they empower racists?
Sometimes things don’t go quite the way you expect
Things don't always go the way you want. Now our plans are in tatters we've found smiling is helping us work through our problems and move forwards.