Lifestyle

Articles on the BDSM lifestyle, from finding partners to the intimacy of play.

Lifestyle

Damn, I miss Zentai

Zentai is a fetish where a person covers themselves entirely in spandex. It’s a liberating fetish, and easier than total latex enclosure or heavy rubber.

Lifestyle

Woman in a window: musing on the isolation of lockdown

During the lockdown a woman in a flat opposite took to pressing her breasts against her window. Maybe she was craving the subtle interactions lockdown stole

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My kink is a form of armour

Sometimes we use our fetishes as a way of protecting ourselves from the outside world. Just remember to lift your visor from time to time.

Lifestyle

The “Real Dominant” doesn’t exist. Stop trying to find them.

Looking for a “real dominant” is a fool’s errand. Stop worrying about what a dominant looks like and start focusing on what submission means to you.

Lifestyle

Cancer, kink and trying to find “normal”

Tinky had cancer and it had a profound effect on our kinky relationship. We’re finding a way back to BDSM because we both want to be whole again.

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Online domination: a convenient, thrilling form of BDSM

You don’t have to visit a Dominatrix in person to enjoy submission. Many Masters and Mistresses offer online domination for the virtual submissive.

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How to teach your submissive face fucking

If you want your submissive to swallow ALL of your cock don’t expect them to take it first time. Teaching them to bypass their gag reflex can be fun though.

Update

Saturday, 15th June 2019

Writing a fetish profile is a labour of love for some, a terrifying ordeal for others. On Fetlife you can write entire novels, on Twitter you have less than 150 characters.

So how do you get those words onto the page.

First, be natural. Write what you feel rather than trying to conform to some preordained “winning format”.

Don’t think you have to write something and that’s it. You can rewrite it as often as you want.

Finally, don’t forget few people read profiles. You’re better off investing time in networking, sharing blog posts and being a participant in a community than fretting over a few words on a page.

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Fakes and flakes and swipe right profiles

The pressure to stand out in an age of “swipe right” has led many to use old, heavily photoshopped or even fake profile photos.

Lifestyle

You don’t need to find a “mistress” to indulge your fetishes

How to hire a sex worker

Having a fetish doesn’t mean you have to be alone. Nor does hiring a sex worker mean you have to go with a professional dominatrix.

Update

Monday, 6th May 2019

Posts tentative casting call.

Opens first half dozen emails.

Deletes casting call.

Goes and has shower in bleach.

Seriously, if you’re male and want to be a model act like a professional model. Thinking it’s a cheap way to get to play is a dick move.

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Don’t let someone else’s writing upset your kinky Mental Health

Bound hands behind back

Wrapping yourself up in knots over the latest writing about your fetish isn’t good for your mental health. Relax. Unwind. Enjoy it for what it is.

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