Master or slave? What role do I play as a fetishist?
Roles in BDSM can be fluid things. There are times when the most dominant of people crave moments of submission. This is how to satisfy those needs.
I got called a “wog lover”
An encounter with a BDSM play partner shocked me with its racism. It wasn't race play, it was pure anti-black hatred. The play ended, so did the friendship.
Unintended long-term chastity
I didn't set out to spend more than a month in chastity. But with Mistress in Africa and me contracting man-flu, it was inevitable I'd stay caged.
Has social media made our fetishes easier to live with?
Social media has exposed more people to latex, BDSM and bondage than I ever thought possible. Has this fueled abuse, or been unrestrained sexual liberation?
Things to do in 2018
This past year has been a bit flat on the kinky front. Of course Tinky and I played a fair bit and we continued to add to our répertoire of kinky games and interests. It just wasn’t very creative. There are numerous reasons for this. I was disenchanted by a couple of disappointing shoots and […]
I pull the strangest faces when I cum…
No, seriously. Absolute crackers. Proper Gurning championship contenders. Then again, what did you expect? The carefully posed intense look of a porn star trying not to distract from the woman he’s fucking?
I was a teenage sex slave
Being young in the BDSM scene used to have benefits. I was taken under the wing of a Dominatrix and turned into her sex slave. It didn't end well.
My writing has gone a little – strange
My writing is seriously screwed at the moment. I keep going to write BDSM erotica to add to the growing eBook library and coming up with some really weird shit.
A political satire that casts a certain US President as a bumbling town mayor with a penchant for being pissed on;
An I-don’t-know-what where a British Prime Minister called June Mother discovers her right wing sadism is softened by the domineering overtures of a left wing hunk;
Something that started as an intense whipping scene and seems to have ended up as “A Modest Proposal”.
Either I’m about to make an amazing career as a BDSM satirist, starting a new genre for which I shall win many, many awards, or I’ve wasted my life.
You’ll never be someone’s Master if you’re a dick on Social Media
If your plan is to find a Mistress or slave on social media, don't behave like a dick. A shared sexuality is not enough to overcome this character flaw
Trying out BDSM dating? Here’s 28 tips for being a safe submissive
Online dating in the BDSM scene adds an extra dimension of risk. Here's how to be careful and find the right Dominant for your submission.
A letter to my neighbours: I am a rubberist. Don’t panic.
Dear Neighbours, There is nothing to be afraid of. I am just a rubberist. It means I get sexually excited by wearing latex and being with people who wear it too. It does not mean I am going to attack your children. Or ritually slaughter your cat. Nor rape you whilst you sleep in your […]
Preparing for a night out in fetish land
I’ll spend weeks building up to it. I keep telling myself “I’m going to wear the catsuit, I’m going to wear the catsuit.” The night comes. I eat dinner. I look in the mirror. OK, I’m wearing the jeans and loose shirt…