My encounter with a victim of domestic abuse
In my youth, as I was exploring my dominant side, I encountered a woman who frightened the life out of me. We dated for about four weeks and in that time I seriously questioned whether BDSM was right, whether an abuser was lurking inside me and how I was going to cope if things went […]
A beginner’s guide to negotiating a BDSM scene
While some of the “BDSM” erotica suggests all you have to do is put two people in a room with whips and chains the truth is far removed from that. Agreeing to play together can be a daunting prospect for both new and experienced players alike. There are questions about what sort of things should […]
Sex and BDSM : the two can go together
It’s a feature of much of Western society that we have a binary culture. Our worldview is formed of things that conform to definitions and anything that varies in any way is defined as “not that”. Hence we have male and female without acknowledging those who lie between and a mixed race person is “black” […]
How do you ‘follow’ someone on Twitter without the world knowing you’re kinky?
Sometimes following people on Twitter isn’t the most appropriate thing for you to do. Whilst you might like the images or tweets that someone puts out it could be that having a flood of porno pics and discussions about the best way to wear latex on your timeline causes more problems than it solves. One […]
Why do fetishists feel the urge to purge?
When you have a fetish the need to throw everything away and be "normal" can be overpowering. It isn't good for our mental health to do this.