Does BDSM race play empower racists?
An encounter with a white supremacist forum on BDSM race play awakened an uncomfortable question. Our games may be consensual, but do they empower racists?
Apparently this needs saying (again)
None of the models on this site are my wife.
Nor have I dominated them, played with or shagged them.
Sometimes things don’t go quite the way you expect
Things don't always go the way you want. Now our plans are in tatters we've found smiling is helping us work through our problems and move forwards.
Be thankful for the unsung heroes of the kink community
The BDSM community is underpinned by a network of contributors and supporters whose efforts are often unrecognised. An army of volunteers, activists, educators, bloggers and creatives toil endless hours to help promote the scene as a safe and welcoming place. Some progress to become “celebrities”, a few find a living from their kinks. Most are unrecognised and unrewarded.
Their hard work is what allows fetish clubs, workshops, websites and safe spaces to exist. Their investment of time, energy and money makes these things to happen so we can all enjoy them.
Instead of beating up these unsung heroes because we didn’t like event x or they have a paywall on their site, let’s celebrate their efforts. Let’s acknowledge their hard work, even if it doesn’t quite resonate with our particular brand of kinkiness.
Without these great people I for one would not have had the opportunities to grow my fetishes and find happiness.
Fetishists: stop hiding behind your lists of likes
Fetishists looking for a partner sometimes put up lists of likes and dislikes. This rarely works. Far better to start engaging with people on Social Media
I wrote some really bad erotica. You’ll thank me for it
In a moment of boredom I set about writing flash erotic fiction. The end result was dire, even worse than 50 Shades of Grey. It'll be a big seller.
UK blocking NSFW sites is a damaging victory for the anti-porn brigade
The UK's anti-porn laws are bizarre and dangerous. They're leading us down a slippery slope to locking the country behind the White Cliffs of Digital
A massive clear out has taken place
I’ve been a bit busy of late. I’ve assembled my first photobook, ready to put onto Amazon. This website has been edited, including removing a whole load of duplicated and pointless content (no sniggering in the back). A few personal projects have come to fruition.
Fingers crossed, now things are settling down and I’ve got my mojo back, I’ll be able to get back in the studio and start shooting again. I’ve decided to move away from providing shed loads of free images, mainly because of upcoming law changes in the UK, but also because this hobby isn’t cheap.
Anyhoo, hopefully more regular posts, book releases and upcoming shoots to take my mind off what has been a really shit start to 2019.
We need to talk about the under 18 year olds
If you're young and confused about sexuality you can find yourself blocked out by the community who could help. Don't worry - there are ways to find help.
22 Different ways to use a traffic cone as part of a BDSM scene
The next time you’re stuck in roadworks don’t despair. Those pesky plastic traffic cones that litter lanes and block off exits have many practical uses in the dungeon, playroom or just BDSM life in general. Here are 22 different ways that you can put a traffic cone to good use on your submissive or slave: […]
Is porn bad: a debate we need with facts, not hysteria
Using snapshots of videos to illustrate non-consent in porn is a bad move. Basic fact checking will show these claims can be fake news.
The object called Mina (BDSM Erotica)
They led her in to the pit on a leash. A goddamn leash like she was their pet dog. They’d bound her too, taping her arms behind her so tightly her shoulders ached, then wrapping more around her chest under her breasts to keep them right against her back. Sure, she could walk on heels […]