You don’t need to find a “mistress” to indulge your fetishes
Having a fetish doesn't mean you have to be alone. Nor does hiring a sex worker mean you have to go with a professional dominatrix.
This has been my avatar on Fetlife for ages. Surprised I’d not shared it here before.
This is a tale of betrayal
A woman claimed to be barren and asked for unprotected sex. Turned out she was trying to trick me into becoming the father of her child.
A profound observation from my daughter
“If feminists keep telling me to stop watching porn we’re breaking up.”
She realised she’d said it out loud and blushed.
I’m proud of my daughter.
I considered doing a male photoshoot.
Posts tentative casting call.
Opens first half dozen emails.
Deletes casting calls.
Goes and has shower in bleach.
Don’t let someone else’s writing upset your kinky Mental Health
Wrapping yourself up in knots over the latest writing about your fetish isn't good for your mental health. Relax. Unwind. Enjoy it for what it is.
Every fetishist should do a few selfies
Selfies can be awesome. They remind you of fond memories, happy times, people you enjoyed being with. How you enjoyed your fetishes.
I’ve done a few. I’ve loaded up my camera on a tripod, set the timer and run like hell to adopt “the perfect pose”. It’s a mix of freaking awesome and intense frustration. The results can be amazing or rubbish.
It doesn’t matter.
All that matters is for a few minutes you can capture those moments when you were happy in your fetish.
My weekly Fetlife friend-not-friend
It happens about once a week. A certain person, who shall remain nameless, likes an image and then asks to become bosom buddies on Fetlife. No message, just a friends request. I decline.
To be fair, I decline most friends requests as I’m not in that game. There’s a “Follow” button you can use. Otherwise I’m a choosy bugger.
I don’t block him. He’s done nothing wrong bar not read a profile. I’m not that much of a bastard. So I decline his request and wait another week.
Wonder if I’ll miss him when he finally gives up?
EL James has triggered another round of shallow “try BDSM” articles
As EL James' latest novel hits the virtual bookshelves, another round of BDSM themed articles has started to emerge. Most are as bad her novels.
I am an arse!
One of the problems with clearing out the old site is I lost track of some of my images. As a consequence, I’ve accidentally shared the same image more than once.
Apologies and I will try and do better.
When TFP meant something different to a pro-domme
A contact from a pro-domme asking for a shoot to build her website went in an unexpected direction. Perhaps TFP means something different to a dominatrix?
Does BDSM race play empower racists?
An encounter with a white supremacist forum on BDSM race play awakened an uncomfortable question. Our games may be consensual, but do they empower racists?