Spent a couple of hours uploading old images
After I trashed the blog in a major “I just need some space” moment I decided to upload some of the old ones to fill a bit of space and help the old search engine rankings a bit. I realised the way I’d built the blog made this a bit of a nightmare. It picks […]
I really don’t give a shit about the history of sexuality
I got really pissed off at a few comments in a thread about latex. An individual decided to start preaching about the history of sexuality and had one of those “I don’t believe you don’t know who Kinsey is” moments in the kind of patronising way some fetishists manage. Here’s the bottom line for me. […]
Relationship ended? Hold on there, I’m rooting for you!
Whenever I see someone float past on Social Media bemoaning the loss of a relationship I feel a tinge of sadness for them. Dating is hard at the best of times, but when you enjoy something as “alternative” as BDSM it can be harder. Not only do we have the usual dating nonsense, we have […]
So where’s a teen to go?
Big drama on Twitter as a 14/15 year old girl is outed. She’s not pretended to be anything, just said she’s a “little” and started contacting people she might relate to. No one’s sure why because, frankly, no one’s asking. So let’s assume for a moment this person is what they say they are – […]
Rebuilding the portfolio
Slowly I’m rebuilding my online portfolio. Even after some ruthless pruning I’m still running at over a hundred images to post. And now I’ve done another couple of shoots I have even more images to upload and share. I’m not just uploading everything that went before though. I’m increasing the resolution so the images are […]
Heaven : latex
Heaven is a genuine latex fetishist. I was delighted to be able to capture her on her first professional fetish shoot.
Bondage 101 (or how to tie your partner up for the first time without anyone getting hurt)
If you're new to bondage and want to tie them up, this is an essential guide for how to approach the subject, discuss safety and enjoy your first games
The verdict on today’s shoot is…
It’s always good to have positive feedback when I work with a model. Odette, a first-time bondage model, certainly gave her approval for our time together…
What happened to safe, sane and consensual?
Safe. Sane. Consensual Three words that were drummed into me when I discovered this crazy world. Safe – don’t cause permanent harm or put them at risk of it; Sane – use good judgment; Consensual – everyone should agree – even if it seems they don’t. We seem to have lost those three guiding principles. […]
Please let me be your slave, Master
Occasionally I get messages from people who want to be my submissive. They’re a mixed bunch, sometimes incredibly polite and well thought out, usually little more than a couple of sentences thrown together. However they come there is one thing that I have to make clear:
I don’t need or want another slave.
My submissive partner and I are quite happy together and have no desire to bring another into our relationship. No, not even you.
So thanks for the offer, but no thanks.
Hypocrisy is everywhere in BDSM
You just need to scratch the surface of the BDSM scene and you find hypocrisy:
“My fetish is OK, but yours is just weird”
We’re all guilty of it, but you know what – so what. We do it all the time and it helps us make sense of the world without our heads imploding.
When you see someone displaying a kink you don’t get just check yourself for a moment. Remember they might be looking at you and wondering WTAF too.
Intricate finger bondage
Sabina asked if we could tie her in a way that would show her finger tattoos. I was happy to oblige, and a fair few minutes later this was the result.