Rape play : the dynamic of consensual non-consent
The rape fantasy is one that lurks uncomfortably in the minds of many in the BDSM scene. It is a pure, almost animalistic scene where the power of the Dominant overwhelms the submissive, who has to surrender completely. All talk of consent, of respect for limits, for the subtle power plays within a scene are […]
Lamenting the loss of so many pre-Internet fetish images that shaped who we are today. Disappearing Images
The (almost) invisible men and women behind the world’s largest porn sites
The Next Web takes a look at who the power players are behind some of the web’s most powerful and profitable porn web sites. The (almost) invisible men and women behind the world’s largest porn sites
The punishment tie
Odette demonstrates one of the Punishment Ties I use in BDSM scenes. The aim is to make the submissive feel as vulnerable as possible. This one certainly does the trick!
Sexual fluidity: Living a label-free life
More young people are embracing the notion that human sexuality is dynamic, free and cannot easily be categorised. Despite accusations it is “just a phase,” sexual fluidity is now firmly in the mainstream, and could change everything. Sexual fluidity: Living a label-free life – ABC News
Confidence as a Dominant means acknowledging our own limits
Dominants are supposed to be uber confident and completely in control: only we have limits too. Sometimes we’re not quite sure where they are, but they exist. They can be emotional; perhaps a fear of hurting someone we love more than they can bear or a trigger for our reaction. They may be physical. Sometimes […]
How do I know I can trust you?
There are people who confide in me. They talk to me about their secrets, their fantasies, their concerns. Sometimes these people tell me things they feel unable to tell anyone else. When this happens I am humbled. It takes a lot of courage to reveal yourself to someone you only know from a Twitter feed […]
What My Use of a Wheelchair “Means” as Miss Disa-Burly-Tease
Fascinating insight into the world of a burlesque dancer who has made her wheelchair not only an integral part of her act, but a means by which to be free. What My Use of a Wheelchair “Means” as Miss Disa-Burly-Tease
A Composer and His Wife: Creativity Through Kink
A truly beautiful thing: world famous composer comes “out” as kinky. Both he and his wife are entirely comfortable with their relationship and he admits it’s had a massive boost for his creativity. Frankly I think this is something of a modern D/s love story. A Composer and His Wife: Creativity Through Kink – The […]
Being kept waiting…
… is a terrible thing.
The mind plays over the possibilities.
The body moves restlessly.
The soul craves the touch of intimacy.
Time crawls by so slowly.
All I can hear is the beating of my heart and the endless ticking of the clock on the wall.
I want it to end and yet I know that when it does, when we are finally together, that will be the start of a new ending. The one where time races past and my body and senses and soul explode and ecstasy takes me.
And then waiting will start again.
Georgina Somerset – obituary
If you’re looking for a pioneer for transexual and intersexual rights, then start here. Georgina Somerset was an amazing woman who spent almost half her life living as a man, including a period as an officer in the Royal Navy during the Second World War. Later she successfully underwent reassignment surgery, had her birth certificate […]