BDSM Relationships

A collection of posts, links and other resources about BDSM relationships.

New gear for a new submissive

Your huge collection of BDSM gear might not be as attractive to a new partner as you thought. A new collection might be needed for a new relationship.

Lifestyle

29 tips for dominants in the BDSM dating scene

If you identify as dominant and are wondering where all the submissives are, try these BDSM dating tips to find genuine submissive men and women.

Lifestyle

The joy of cock and ball torture

Tormenting a man's genitals can be rewarding and highly enjoyable. Don't rely on pain for your CBT - there are other ways of hurting them.

Lifestyle

Why safe words are an important part of BDSM

Safewords are an important part of BDSM. When your submissive calls theirs, there is no need to panic. Just work through the issue and make her feel safe.

Commentary

Lessons from a Minister and the 16 year old Financial Dominatrix

A government minister was caught in a relationship with a 16 year-old financial dominatrix. It raises questions everyone in BDSM should be asking.

Commentary

CollarSpace: end of an era or just the loss of a website?

My relationship with CollarSpace has been a bit of a love / hate one. I am deeply indebted to the site (or at least its predecessor CollarMe) because it’s where I met Tinky, with whom I fully intend on spending the rest of my life. At the same time, it was so full of fakes, […]

Lifestyle

Introducing a submissive to chastity

How controlling your submissive's sexual needs and preventing them from satisfying them can add to your pleasure as in a BDSM relationship

Commentary

The joy of slapping a slave across the face

Slapping a slave across the face is humiliating for the submissive, rewarding for the Dominant. It's an integral part of many couple's BDSM play.

Lifestyle

I got called a “wog lover”

An encounter with a BDSM play partner shocked me with its racism. It wasn't race play, it was pure anti-black hatred. The play ended, so did the friendship.

Lifestyle