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“Forced” to sleep

Photo of a black woman in a green spandex catsuit with her arms folded across her chest

An intense femdom game turned into something more relaxing. Gags and bags and nytol played their part.

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Sex shops and bondage magazines: what the download generation are missing

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Easy access to porn downloads is robbing us of a vital part of our sexual education – the thrill of buying bondage magazines in sex shops.

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When will BDSM “come out”?

I look forward to the day when BDSM is accepted as a sexuality as homosexuality has largely become. How long will I have to wait?

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Is your fantasy cheating on your lover?

A fantasy is a deeply personal affair. Is it right to think of them as cheating when someone other than your partner stars?

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Lessons from a Fetish Lockdown

As England and much of Europe enters a second lockdown, what lessons can a kinky, self-isolated fetishist offer from the first?

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Curse of the unsolicited BDSM dating message

Unsolicited messages setting out what the sender would like to do to you are a part of the BDSM dating scene. Replying is pointless. Blocking is better.

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Exposing my vulnerable side to the woman I love

Sack time is a way I can release stress. Tinky plays the role of service top – and for an hour or so I put complete trust in her in a way only a man could.

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We need to talk about consent in BDSM

Since BDSM went mainstream the importance of safe, sane and consensual has been lost. We need to reopen the conversation about consent.

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The “Real Dominant” doesn’t exist. Stop trying to find them.

Looking for a “real dominant” is a fool’s errand. Stop worrying about what a dominant looks like and start focusing on what submission means to you.

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Cancer, kink and trying to find “normal”

Tinky had cancer and it had a profound effect on our kinky relationship. We’re finding a way back to BDSM because we both want to be whole again.

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Online domination: a convenient, thrilling form of BDSM

You don’t have to visit a Dominatrix in person to enjoy submission. Many Masters and Mistresses offer online domination for the virtual submissive.

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Fetishists: stop hiding behind your lists of likes

Hayley - a portrait of a mixed race woman

Fetishists looking for a partner sometimes put up lists of likes and dislikes. This rarely works. Far better to start engaging with people on Social Media

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