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A bad weekend

Black and white photo of a man tying hands behind back

Our plans for a couple of hours of kinky fun came to nothing as a malaise overtook me. Perhaps my mood will lift.

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A day in latex (or why ignoring your fetish for a few months is bad for your mental health)

Photograph of a man in a latex gesturing to the camera

After months of letting the vanilla world get the better of me, I gave my sexuality free reign. Welcome back, latex loving Razz!

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Sex shops and bondage magazines: what the download generation are missing

Scan of the inside of a bondage magazine showing a young woman tied up by train tracks

Easy access to porn downloads is robbing us of a vital part of our sexual education – the thrill of buying bondage magazines in sex shops.

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American Horror Story: appropriation of the fetish culture?

Scenes from An American Horror Story Rubber (Wo)man

The latest AHS story has a latex gimp as a central character. Is is appropriation from the latex fetish subculture?

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PornHub and Mastercard: a battle for our sextertainment

As Mastercard and Visa crack down on Pornhub, the question has to be asked: who will be next?

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Don’t let someone else’s writing upset your kinky Mental Health

Bound hands behind back

Wrapping yourself up in knots over the latest writing about your fetish isn’t good for your mental health. Relax. Unwind. Enjoy it for what it is.

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Japan, swimsuits and being uncomfortable

Photograph of a Japanese woman showing her body in a skimpy wetlook bodysuit

Japan’s preference for young girls posting in swimsuits can create a moral dilemma for fetishists. Are you sure that image isn’t banned in your own country?

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Master or slave? What fetish role do I play?

Man on bed in leather sleep sack with cock exposed and sex toys

Roles in BDSM can be fluid things. There are times when the most dominant of people crave moments of submission. This is how to satisfy those needs.

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Extreme pornography: is your collection illegal?

Man on bed in leather sleep sack with cock exposed and sex toys

I wrote this piece a couple of years ago, then it languished in my archive. With the recent furore around British politician Damian Green, I thought it was time for it to appear. The prosecution of Edward (Sen) Luo for the possession of “extreme pornography” concerned me more than a little. Initially the press bounced […]

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Why do we have to be so damned binary?

Man on bed in leather sleep sack with cock exposed and sex toys

Yes, I am dominant towards my partner and it’s always me who does the tying. I’m constantly thinking up new ways of tormenting and torturing her in entirely pleasurable and consensual ways as dominants do. When we eventually get round to playing again I have no doubt it will be her bound, gagged and begging […]

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A letter to my neighbours: I am a rubberist. Don’t panic.

Dear Neighbours, There is nothing to be afraid of. I am just a rubberist. It means I get sexually excited by wearing latex and being with people who wear it too. Neil likes his women tall, slim and blonde. But when he meets Femi, a small, curvy Nigerian woman, his world is turned upside down. […]

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Preparing for a night out in fetish land

I’ll spend weeks building up to it. I keep telling myself “I’m going to wear the catsuit, I’m going to wear the catsuit.” The night comes. Available on Kindle I eat dinner. I look in the mirror. OK, I’m wearing the jeans and loose shirt…

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