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EL James has triggered another round of shallow “try BDSM” articles

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As EL James’ latest novel hits the virtual bookshelves, another round of BDSM themed articles has started to emerge. Most are as bad her novels.

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The joy of cock and ball torture

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Tormenting a man’s genitals can be rewarding and highly enjoyable. Don’t rely on pain for your CBT – there are other ways of hurting them.

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Caring for your latex (or how to make a rubber catsuit last two decades).

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Latex is expensive to buy. If you look after it correctly it will last for many years. Here’s how I kept my catsuit alive for two decades.

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Breath play : an introduction to the exciting world of hanging, bagging and choking

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Choking, hanging and plastic bags are all toys for the BDSM practice of breathplay. How to play safely when you want to be choked.

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6 things to do when your submissive breaks down in tears

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During a scene emotions can run high, so high in fact that a submissive is overwhelmed and breaks down. They’ll burst into tears, go deep into themselves or even have panic attacks. Whatever the trigger what the Dominant does next can have a profound effect on them, on you and on the relationship. 1. Don’t […]

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Bondage 101 (or how to tie your partner up for the first time without anyone getting hurt)

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If you’re new to bondage and want to tie them up, this is an essential guide for how to approach the subject, discuss safety and enjoy your first games

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A beginner’s guide to negotiating a BDSM scene

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While some of the “BDSM” erotica suggests all you have to do is put two people in a room with whips and chains the truth is far removed from that. Agreeing to play together can be a daunting prospect for both new and experienced players alike. There are questions about what sort of things should […]

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