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A bad weekend

Black and white photo of a man tying hands behind back

Our plans for a couple of hours of kinky fun came to nothing as a malaise overtook me. Perhaps my mood will lift.

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A day in latex (or why ignoring your fetish for a few months is bad for your mental health)

Photograph of a man in a latex gesturing to the camera

After months of letting the vanilla world get the better of me, I gave my sexuality free reign. Welcome back, latex loving Razz!

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I’m in my own world of calm – don’t spoil it

As the world of Twitter becomes increasingly fraught, I’ve found a little piece of calm where I can preserve my mental health.

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Woman in a window: musing on the isolation of lockdown

During the lockdown a woman in a flat opposite took to pressing her breasts against her window. Maybe she was craving the subtle interactions lockdown stole

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My kink is a form of armour

Sometimes we use our fetishes as a way of protecting ourselves from the outside world. Just remember to lift your visor from time to time.

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Don’t let someone else’s writing upset your kinky Mental Health

Bound hands behind back

Wrapping yourself up in knots over the latest writing about your fetish isn’t good for your mental health. Relax. Unwind. Enjoy it for what it is.

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Dominants suffer from depression too

Dominants are strong, powerful people. We’re in control all of the time. We’ve a sharp mind and an inherent ability to read and understand the needs of our submissives. At least that’s the common view. The reality is that we’re as fragile as the rest of humanity. Of course we’re self-assured and confident to the […]

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The frustration of the secret fetish

When you have a fetish living with someone vanilla can be soul destroying. Keeping an integral part of your sexuality will eat away at your being.

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Negativity in the fetish community: why it’s inevitable and I choose to ignore it

The BDSM community is not immune from negativity. It reflects the broader cross-section of society, so trolling and abuse will find its way inside.

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I know, I’ve been ignoring my fetish (again)

The past few months have been hard for me. The UK’s decision to leave the EU has had a profound and quite damaging impact on my business, which I’ve been struggling to cope with. I got locked into a downward spiral that no amount of hard work could pull me out of. One of the […]

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I’ve given up Twitter for a while

I don’t know why or how, but Twitter has been getting really shitty of late. It’s been building up for a while, but it seems like the polarisation of our viewpoints into complete, blinding binary have reached their pinnacle. There’s no longer space for discussion or debate. Polite disagreement is not allowed. Threats of violence, […]

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Aftercare : why you should be paying attention AFTER the games have finished

Aftercare is important in BDSM relationship

Aftercare is an oft forgotten element of BDSM. We think so much about what happens during our scenes that sometimes we forget about what takes place afterwards. Yet aftercare, at least to me, is an important component of what can make a scene memorable and enjoyable. Broadly speaking, aftercare is that time after the whipping […]

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