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The return of bondage photography

Black and white photo of a woman in a spandex catsuit with her hands tied behind her back in a bondage position

With the threat of the UK banning bondage and fetish photography, I think it’s time to share my old work. Maybe some new photos too.


No one reads your Fetlife Profile

Doesn’t matter what you write in your profile. No one reads it. Might as well just get on and enjoy social networking anyway.


Copyright, photographs and posting on social media

Just because you’re in a photo doesn’t mean you have a right to share it on Social Media. If you’re commissioning a shoot get a proper contract.


Saturday, 15th June 2019

Writing a fetish profile is a labour of love for some, a terrifying ordeal for others. On Fetlife you can write entire novels, on Twitter you have less than 150 characters.

So how do you get those words onto the page.

First, be natural. Write what you feel rather than trying to conform to some preordained “winning format”.

Don’t think you have to write something and that’s it. You can rewrite it as often as you want.

Finally, don’t forget few people read profiles. You’re better off investing time in networking, sharing blog posts and being a participant in a community than fretting over a few words on a page.


Fetishists: stop hiding behind your lists of likes

Hayley - a portrait of a mixed race woman

Fetishists looking for a partner sometimes put up lists of likes and dislikes. This rarely works. Far better to start engaging with people on Social Media


Farewell to Tumblr. Porn won’t miss you

Tumblr has finally banned porn from its pages. With it goes societies, communities and artists for whom erotica and porn were important outlets.


Farewell to Google+

There’s lots of jokes floating around about this one, but I’m genuinely sad about it. My fetish profile isn’t used that much, but on the vanilla side it’s quite the different story. I’m in there daily participating in groups, sharing and commenting. I’m in discussions that have raged for weeks. Dammit, I’ve got friends there. […]


The “deactivate my account?” ploy for extra validation

Fingers against lips in pose

Making a big announcement you’re going to close your social media account seems to be a way of getting validation. Why not be honest instead?


Has social media made our fetishes easier to live with?

Social media has exposed more people to latex, BDSM and bondage than I ever thought possible. Has this fueled abuse, or been unrestrained sexual liberation?


The problem with sharing on Pinterest

As you may know I used to maintain a Pinterest account and to be honest I had a bit of a love-hate relationship with it. The love bit was finding lots of fascinating images, articles and connections to inspire me. The hate is often what I found wasn’t from the original source but uploaded, pinned […]


Are you on Amazon’s cloud?

It transpires a Reddit user has been merrily uploading webcam porn to Amazon’s cloud. The user claims he was testing their “unlimited storage” claim and given it would take a fair few years to watch it all, I’m guessing that’s not an unreasonable assumption. The scripts he used are now out in the wild, so […]


Monday, 19th June 2017

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